trouble

so i just keep getting myself in trouble.
while i was grieving a loss. i like to do it solo, without anyone... alone! and when people continue to bloody well bring it up and talk about it, it upsets me. so... other people grieve and i do best to help by not bringing it up, leaving people alone... because that's how i deal... so i figure "omg i would hate it if someone did this for me, so i won't do it to this person." and then i get called heartless for not talking and comforting someone... how am i ment to know! tell me if i should comfort them, but don't call me heartless for trying to appreciate what i would want to kill someone for doing :)